You Are Changed After Marriage

  • Mar 02, 2025

Note: Before reading, please note that I write all of my articles purely for the purpose of knowledge provision. I never intend to hurt anyone; instead, my writing is meant to benefit all of us.

It is the same complaint that 99% of women express to their husbands: “You are not the same like before.”

Yes, it is true that men change after marriage, but women often do not understand this. Even men themselves are unaware of this transformation, which is a natural part of who they are because Allah created them this way.

Before marriage, when you were his lover, he was excited to see you, to talk to you, and to express his feelings. That was love, just like when we feel excited to see something new — a beautiful place, a stunning flower, or an exciting journey. But once we have seen or experienced it, the initial excitement naturally fades. However, what remains is something much deeper and more valuable.

After marriage, the love between a husband and wife increases significantly, even more than the love for their own children. Allah said in the Quran:

“They are clothing for you, and you are clothing for them.” (Surah Baqarah, 2:187)

Your husband now sees you as a part of his own body — something more than just a lover. His love has grown into care, responsibility, and emotional attachment. This kind of love doesn't always come with sweet words or daily romantic messages. It comes in the form of silent sacrifices, hard work, and protection without even showing it.

It is not right to compare your husband to the movies or couples' drama videos on Facebook, Instagram, or YouTube. The majority of these are fictional stories meant for entertainment and have no connection to real life. Even if you see real couples being romantic on social media, remember — that is their job and they are making money from it.

In reality, they live the same life as you. Think about how we post our best pictures on social media with filters to impress others, even when we know our real appearance is different. Similarly, those couples showing romance on social media are not living that way 24/7.

Now, coming back to the point —

Yes, your husband has changed, but he loves you more than ever in a deeper and more mature way. Real love doesn't need to be shown in dramatic ways every day. He might not say “I love you” or send emojis, but he expresses his love in different ways:

Working hard to provide for the family.

Taking care of you when you're sick.

Fixing things at home without complaint.

Staying awake at night to ensure you and the children are safe.

Worrying about your future.

This is real love — not like Bollywood or Hollywood fantasies.

Understand and feel your true love — the love that comes from the heart and is much higher than words or emojis. Respect his emotions and appreciate his care for you.

May Allah grant more love, understanding, and blessings between every husband and wife. May He reward both for their patience, care, and sacrifices.

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